For many, it is difficult to be a solitary witch, especially if you don’t have any other experienced witches to talk to about it. When I was new to witchcraft, the first thing I did was explore the concept with lots of books. Life was so hectic and I didn’t have any support to explore the subject. In fact, it was the opposite. My boyfriend at the time tried to push me in the opposite direction although he claimed his path was of the Pagan variety and had been calling me a “Natural Witch” for years. I found I could only get so much information from books and back then, I didn’t have unlimited access to the internet.
I found a group of witches who sort of took me under their proverbial wing and taught some basics about what magick is and why we use tools. They taught me things I didn’t see in the books that I actually had access to back then. I had all kinds of wonderful experiences in my newly found group of friends. As I discovered that I already practiced witchcraft and it all came to me naturally because witchcraft is natural, I grew excited about my discovery and wanted to share with my family. My mother wouldn’t even acknowledge that I wasn’t a Christian although she wasn’t exactly a devoted one herself. Most of my family who are Christian grimaced at the idea but overall didn’t take me or my newly found practices seriously.
I quickly learned not to talk about it and that it was a subject that was not acceptable. I got a lot of warnings to change my ways or I will burn in hell, concerns about my soul, and told often that I don’t know what I’m dabbling with. As I grew in my practices, I became more secretive. After about two years with these wonderful Witches, life took me into a different direction. I became a solitary practitioner. Now, after many years of solitude, meeting a few people who were new to the craft here and there, I found myself feeling very much alone and although my growth in my practice has been very personal, I feel it has been limited.
There is something about being able to speak openly about concerns regarding spells and specific ideas and practices. Since I have been both involved with others and a solitary Witch who practiced in almost complete solitude, I have to say, I like being a solitary practitioner, However, I like being a solitary practitioner with like-minded friends. Being a Solitary Witch in a Christian family or in a family of any faith that disagrees with witchcraft of any style, it is difficult to practice with a strong conviction. Not impossible, just difficult. When your family if of a disagreeing faith such as Christianity, there is no support, no one to turn to and having to keep secrets from them makes it even more difficult. It isn’t that all Witches want to keep it secret or that it is a big secret or mysterious path to begin with. It is just that there is no point bringing it up or talking about it with people who not only don’t understand your point of view or practices, but they ridicule you and tell you that you will burn in hell. They seem to play emotional games with you like begging you to change because they don’t want you to burn in hell, or they just treat you like you are crazy.
I don’t talk a lot about Wicca here because I see Wicca as a religion that incorporates the art of witchcraft into its practices. In this case, however, I want to say that favoring Wicca as my own religious belief system has helped me combat the attacks by my Christian family and even Christian strangers. I am personally a religious person to begin with and I like having a spiritual connection with a religious belief. But I am also a Witch that stands aside from religion. At the beginning of my second marriage, a couple years after I began my path in Witchcraft, my practices became an issue. I was open and forthcoming about my practices but when he actually seen me putting my words into action, he had a big problem with it. He didn’t even like the fact that I took the time to meditate. He even freaked out when I burned a little sage to cleanse our new residence.
Suddenly, my new husband decided he was out to destroy me. That I was suddenly the enemy. When he realized that I was actually a practitioner of witchcraft and that it wasn’t all talk, entertainment, and games; things got serious and it was a miserable 5 years of my life. The path of a solitary practitioner can be awesome with the self-growth and personal power that can be had. It can be lonely at times as well. Since Witchcraft isn’t a belief system such as Christianity and is more focused on what is practiced, there really isn’t one way to practice. It is difficult for some people to understand that some practitioners are Christian and a Witch or any other religion mixed with witchcraft. For some, they no longer have families because their families have abandoned them. It was usually for more dysfunctional reasons other than beliefs, practicing witchcraft, lifestyles or sexual orientation, but these things usually get the blame and are commonly found in Witchcraft.
Witches who are from a Christian (or any intolerant religion) background find themselves very often as an outcast from their families for one reason or another and have found refuge in new families made up of like-minded friends when they have found themselves abandoned by their biological relatives. I use Christianity as an example here for two reasons. My first reason is my own childhood background is Christian, and two, it is a very large and loud religious group that is against pretty much everything, especially witchcraft. When the teachings of any religion states to never suffer a Witch to live (Exodus 22:18 KJV) and has a history of killing people accused of witchcraft, it is difficult to find support from those who believe in such things. I have found that, although I may not want to join a coven or fellowship for whatever reason, It is essential to find at least a couple friends who are like-minded and understand witchcraft, who are open-minded people and some other witches, even if they have different traditions or practices. I currently do have that one special someone who doesn’t practice witchcraft or fully understands it, but they are open-minded and respect my practices, my own personal religious beliefs, and my spiritual path.
We can talk about our own personal beliefs even when our beliefs and practices don’t agree. Having that one person I can talk to without being judged or bullied helps when I need that little bit of support. It is important to surround yourself with open-minded people just as it is important to be open-minded. It isn’t easy being a Solitary Witch in a Christian family but it isn’t impossible.
Once you understand what witchcraft really is and how natural it is to the soul, you may find that you don’t really have to give up core religious beliefs and can find solace in incorporating your religious beliefs in with your practice of the craft. It will change how you live, how you think, how you feel and how you handle problems. It may even change who you are. Keep one thing in mind when dealing with people of any background, the best practice of all is to keep an open mind and respect their beliefs and practices too.
The path that is easy for you to walk along is often rough for others. That’s why it’s your path and not theirs.
I am new to the craft. Where I live I can not find any witches to guide me ans answer my questions. My family to is Christian…and when I was forward with my xhoice they called me a devil worshiper and told me I was going to end up possessed. People fear what they do not understand. However, I wish it was Easier where I live to find more people to share my thoughts with! Its hard for me to even find stores to buy tools and research items. I still dont understand everything and its really hard trying to educate myself.
I know how difficult it is because there are very few brick and mortar stores in my area as well. It is difficult to find groups. There is hope. To find tools and books on the subject, you can find some online web stores. Some are on eBay. Do a search for Wicca store Witch shop metaphysical store or cultural store. A favorite store I like is in Idaho, Called Crone’s Cupboard. you can find them on facebook. Another is in California called The Green Man. There are quite a few online to choose from. It just takes some hunting. I know there are small stores all over the united states that send orders through the mail. Azure green has a nice catalog to order some stuff from and Lewellyn is an established publisher of magickal type books. I plan to create a page with suggested books that should benefit beginners very soon. As far as tools, you can make most of your tools as you learn and you will find that as you learn about tools they make themselves available to you. Keep in mind there are many ways to practice witchcraft. There are many traditions. I am an Eclectic Witch who practices with an Eclectic coven who happens to lean more toward Celtic traditions. I practice Wicca where some simply practice traditional witchcraft. As you read and learn and experiment you can develop a find a teacher spell that can guide you to find a teacher. But even then be cautiously selective as it may draw some extras to choose from. 🙂 Depending on your beliefs, you can say a prayer to the divine to give you guidance, clarity and wisdom in selecting your path. I personally believe in the power of prayer, even if I’m simply praying to the Universe.
I’ve been a solitary Heathen for over 45 years and I prefer it because I don’t feel obligated to go along with a group, and I am able to evolve as I learn. I have learned to rely on myself and to create the tools that I need or adapt what I have on hand. I live in the country so I have access to wild herbs, but I also use the various spices in my kitchen. I have made most of my tools, except for my knife which I bought in a sporting goods store. By making my own tools, they are more my own than something I buy, so I really don’t need a store. As for books, Amazon.com is my best source. And, by the way, you can find just about any Craft item you might need on Amazon, too. And they have some beautiful deity statues which I might get sometime.
I can’t actually belive that I found this website! I have always wanted to read news about witchcraft, so I thank you for doing this to us. This particular article is really interesting. I would like to read more about wiccan news around the world though…
And I really need a group like the one you said, I hide my beliefs from everyone here, the only person who helps me is my aunt, who lives I’m another city and is also a witch.
Thank you again for this!
Blessed be! 🙂
Thank you for this article and website. I am also alone where I live. My community is very closed minded when it comes to anything other than Christianity. I grew up surrounded by Christians. It just never felt right to me, I felt like I was pretending to be something I was not (Christian). I tried to learn about Witchcraft on my own, but few resources were available to me back then. I have been married twice and neither husband accepted my beliefs. It seems like I have always been alone. I’m so tired of having hide my beliefs. I pretty much hide from the world.
Hi Tammy, I am happy that this site helps in some way. I know the feeling of isolation all too well. I got so good at hiding it, that when I was doing a spell people thought I was praying and would step back and wait for me to finish. How long have you been studying alone? I remember when I was only on my 2nd Degree in Wicca when I visited a small town many years ago. Even finding a book on witchcraft was hard pressed let alone a group. There are a few online forum communities you can join which is a nice way to feel less alone. I try to check for comments at least every other day if you would like some online like-minded company. You can always find me here. Witchcraft, paganism, Wicca are some of my favorite subjects and I love to chat. Welcome to Witch Digest.
Hi Summer Song,
I have been practicing on and off for about twenty years. Unfortunately, due to circumstances, I am still pretty much a beginner. I found it was easier to stop practicing than spend everyday fighting for and defending my right to my beliefs. Thankfully, I have reached a point in my life where others opinions aren’t all that important any more. My boyfriend is very accepting of my beliefs and encourages me in every way possible. He does not actively practice himself though, which sometimes makes things a little…awkward. I am lonely for like-minded friends but I do enjoy solitary practice.
I have some working knowledge and my own personal beliefs. I am now enjoying my first indoor garden. I live in an apartment with no balcony so my plants have a happy home on my kitchen windowsill. I have sage, aloe vera, chamomile, alyssum and my echinacea just began sprouting this morning. I enjoy crystal and stone work, reading the tarot and candle work. These are just a few things I enjoy talking about. I am open minded to most things, I don’t speak on politics for example.
I thank you for responding to my comment. I enjoy your posts, they are filled with good info and readers can relate or at least understand what you are saying. I have visited websites that were written in code or some alien language (not really) and were hard to understand what they were saying. Thank you for the warm welcome!
Tammy, if you would like to reach out to the pagan community there are some groups on Google+ and Facebook that are available. I have plenty of pagan, witch room for friends on facebook and Google+. You are invited to send me a friend request on Facebook with a small introduction so I will know you are from here. My Facebook profile is here https://www.facebook.com/summerthewitch and I also just recently started a Google+ profile. Just add me to your circle on Google+. Let me know you are a witch so I can add you back. In fact, new witches, seasoned witches, or anyone of a pagan path are welcome to join me. I have been taking steps to come out of the broom closet myself the past year or so and would like to expand my like-minded fellowship. I’m still trying to figure out Google+ in case you are wondering. I think it is great that others are reaching out. My Google+ profile is here https://plus.google.com/u/0/100460141321654403930/posts
I’d love to have you as a friend. Witchvox is a good site to find local groups such as covens, fellowships and groves. It also is loaded with a plethora of useful information. As far as defending myself and my beliefs, I try not to antagonize anyone by letting them know I am a witch, I reserve that for those who get to know me and for this site. But I feel I am now ready to stand up and stand out for what I believe and practice and that is why I am coming out the broom closet…slowly. Stop by here or one of my social sites to chat or leave me a message. Will be happy to get back with you as soon as I have a chance.
as noted in another topic. i know where you come from. fortunately my parents although roman catholic and protestant were open minded. and they had their own reasons why. went into extensive detail but in haste. lol (reason why the comment was broken up)in that other topic.
now to what i was trying to say:
yes i was raised a christian but my parents taught tolerance.
i began studying other religions and spiritual paths. got involved in the Kabbalah and High Magick. later after my parents’ death i discover Wicca and practice that which includes witchcraft. i been practicing it for over ten years. and i never been happier. iam on the solitary eclectic male witch; a follower of Wicca. have been in contact with coven mostly online. but this path is solitary as well as eclectic. from what i understand that’s how even hereditary witches begin. with an ancestor being the first solitary eclectic witch.
I’m a 52yr old who has continued to define and redefine myself. I feel I’m always evolving. I’m lucky to have a wonderful open minded husband (who is very sick for the last 3yrs) who is very supportive and has also gone along or aggreed with the reassessment of my God head. Yes I was raised christian in fact I’m a ministers daughter. I’ve always been the good girl. However the stigma that goes with being the minister’s daughter I’ve never paid attention too. I’ve never come out because I’ve never felt the need to. Its know one else’s business anyway. I love my Gods, love my spirit guides. I’m never actually alone. I do what I do because I’m either directed drawn to or just happen to show up. I have always gone by the beat of my own drum. With the acknowledgment of feeling like a witch recently I’ve haven’t been happier with myself. Though I’m stressed about my husband’s health. I’m coming to terms. However I can’t help but be confused about the disembodied voice that told me he was going to be OK. I guess I just have to except that even if he dies that , that’s got to be OK. I’m told the afterlife is beautiful that its freeing. Life isn’t over. Just this one. He’s a fighter he doesn’t want to leave me. We have a strong connection. I have told him if he can’t stay I understand. We’ve been together for 35yrs. There is just so much love. I wish for everyone such love even when of hurts so much its been worth it. Thank you for your artical.
Thank you for your heart warming comment. I’m sorry you are going through a very difficult and painful time in life. A friend of mine speaks of death as a transition. I like that thought. Blessings to you and your husband.
I really appreciate you sharing your story. If I were to tell my family, they would be just like yours. As is, they push their Christianity at me because they know I don’t go to church. Your story gives me hope. Thank you.